Wy do we argue so much ?

well me n my boyfriend been goin threw this ruff path.. N we been arguein A WHOLE LOT ! Wen im mad i lik to be left alone.. n he liks to play n mess wit me thinkin i will get happy but i have ah lil anger problem.. n wen i ask him to stop over n over n oner again.. n he continues to play i get mad.. n then he get mad talkin bout im always takin my anger out on him n im not.. N it has been smart comments on stupid lil stuff that makes me highly upset.. I would really lik it if some one could talk to me n help me out.. Is it me or him?